Have Your Sleep Patterns Changed Lately?

Have you noticed a change in your sleeping habits lately, perhaps going to bed or taking naps at unusual times? You are not alone!

In the article, “What does Ascension feel like?, “one reason that you are sleeping more is that you are having difficulty staying grounded while you are awake. We can interchangeably use the idea of being grounded and descending, they are the same.

“Being grounded does not mean shutting down your awareness of higher information; it just means being strongly rooted in the earth while it is coming in, so you can be a conduit rather than having information get stuck coming or going. And as you spend more time consciously into your physical body than you were before, you require more sleep.

Prior to moving into ascension you were not as present as you thought you were. As you have moved into ascension you have moved more fully into your body. And so by doing that, when you leave your body it is more observable. You feel tired and you sleep more, or when you have emotions and you are more physically moved into your body, you feel them more strongly than you do when you are ungrounded because that is part of the physical experience.”

In another article, “12 Signs of Spiritual Awakening,” one can expect unusual sleep patterns. “It’s likely that you’ll awaken many nights between 2:00 and 4:00 AM. There’s a lot of work going on within you, and it often causes you to wake up for a “breather.””

We are at the end of the Age of Pisces and are entering the Age of Aquarius, where a new energy overtakes the old energy. This transitional energy exchange may be playing a large role in unusual sleep patterns for many people. Similar to being an empath, some people may be more in tune with these energies than others, yet everyone will be affected by them. Empaths will be the first to detect these galactic changes.

This may also explain, on a personal level, why many people are experiencing unusual sleep patterns as discussed in the article, “Symptoms of Energy Shifts”: “Waking in the morning and struggling to get out of bed after a full night of sleep, or falling asleep in the middle of the afternoon is common. This is caused when the energy is shifting throughout the whole spiritual body. This will pass in time, each person has a different time frame for some it can be weeks, for others months, for others years. If you can create a pyramid structure to sit under this will give you wonderful boosts of energy when you are lacking it. Drink lots of pure water to hydrate the cells, add crystals to energize the water. Eat light meals with organic veggies. Doing light physical exercise will stimulate the energy flow through the body. Bach remedies, flower essences and essential oils will also help the transition.”

The medical industry will try to diagnose you as being depressed and will attempt to resolve the “problem” with a Big Pharma remedy. My background is in psychology and as a child & family therapist, I have seen how depression can cause changes in sleep habits, but what many people are experiencing is not related to depression.

The late Jose Arguelles stated that we should learn how to live without time, which is easier said than done when most of us have work schedules that we need to follow, as well as routines that we have followed since childhood, such as having meals at specific times or watching a favorite TV “program” at a certain time.

It makes sense that we should sleep when our body tells us to sleep versus forcing ourselves to sleep because we need to awaken at a specific time to go to work. Unfortunately, that may not mesh well with other family members or our job schedules. The only alternative solution is to try to “live without time” on your days off.

While time may feel like it is speeding up, it is actually your consciousness that’s speeding up. You’re awakening at an exponential rate where information that previously took years to accumulate is now being gathered and assessed at the click of a mouse. This may add to your system overload as your mind is processing more material than ever before.

In a natal birth chart reading by Lavendar, I was told that when we sleep, our multidimensional selves are working in the ethereal realms. While we may only remember a few specific dreams from any particular night, our multidimensional bodies are on the other side of the curtain working continuously, as they have no need for sleep. Sleep is the function of the 3rd dimension and is unnecessary in higher dimensions.

Personally, my sleeping habits have changed drastically over the past several months. There are times when I’ll lay down for a nap at 4pm and will wake up 8 hours later at midnight, then stay up until whenever my body tells me it’s time to either take a nap or to go to bed. Some days, I’ll nap at 2 pm, other days, I won’t nap at all. Overall, I don’t seem to sleep as long as I used to and will wake up after only 4-5 hours of sleep, but will feel completely reenergized as if I slept longer. Perhaps that’s my higher self saying, “Okay, work is done on this side of the realm. Time to get back to work in the 3d realm.”?

Here’s the bottom line: Listen to your body when it tells you it’s time for a nap. Be cognizant of when your body tells you that it’s time to go to bed. Most importantly, listen to your body at all times because you know better than anyone else about what your body needs, so when it speaks to you, LISTEN!

What’s Your Story?

As humans we have the unique ability to create stories about whatever we believe to be true. Our minds are story creating machines!

What you probably don’t realize is that 99% of almost everything that you think “is the way it is” around you is really your made up stories. When you believe these stories to be true then they will be true for you.

Most of these stories are lies that you have made up. They aren’t true at all but you believe that they are. Now add the emotions to it and the drama begins. People love drama and so if there is none the mind likes to create it.

Once the mind creates the story and you put the emotion to it then you begin to share it. This is when it becomes very powerful and dramatic, therefore solidifying the story.

Are you starting to get the picture?

This is how we create our reality through storytelling. Everything is made up of words and symbols with no more meaning other than what we agree upon. Where we make the mistake is not in telling stories but in believing they are real.

Being conscious of your stories will allow you to let go of them when they don’t serve you. I believe that there are stories that will benefit you but if they aren’t in alignment with your morals and values then you,re most often creating a reality that you don’t desire.

I do however agree that there are stories that will serve the world much better than the ones we have right now.

What do you think?

Many of the stories that you make up are the exact reason why you can’t accept someone as they are. When you can love and accept people for who they are and who they aren’t you eliminate the drama. Almost everyone tries to change people to be the way they want them to be. Who says that makes it right? Besides, what is right?

The more you practice being conscious of your stories the easier it is to choose people for who they are and who they aren’t. You can also use words in ways that disagree with the stories that confine you, thus liberating you from the illusions of your mind.

Let me give you an example. Just by rephrasing every “have to” sentence with “I choose to” gives you much more freedom. When you tell yourself the story of “I have to” you surrender your power. “I choose to” opens you up to “What Else is Possible?”

Do you get lost in your stories? Are you aware that you are creating your reality through your story about it?

Your stories can take you from being happy to being annoyed and upset in seconds. Pay attention to how your mind makes things up. Stop causing your own suffering by getting caught up in your head..

Be mindful of how you’re making up stories that make people wrong and you right. This is one of the first steps you can take to become AWARE!

When life doesn’t seem to be going your way, check to see if you are stuck in your story. Be cognisant of what is going on in reality. Put your attention on what’s really happening and not your story and notice how much better you feel.

So what do you say? Are you ready to free yourself from your storytelling mind?

Exercise

An exercise that I have used many times in both my personal and business life is called “The Collapsing Circles.” It is very effective in the sense that it gives you a greater perspective of what we have been talking about.

Draw two circles beside each other. In one circle write “This is what happened.” In the other circle write “This is my story about what happened.” Now as long as the circles are separated there is no judgement or conflict. If you take those same two circles and overlap them, everything changes. We now have a collapse of the circles and our story takes over.

Following is a link to a great video that explains how we are the stories we tell ourselves. Enjoy!

We Are The Stories We Tell Ourselves

This blog was written by Vera Stark

Separation….A Limiting Belief

What is it that keeps you blaming everyone else and everything else in your life including God or a higher power for the way things are?

What is it that has you so convinced that you are not the one creating your external circumstances?

I remember as a young child being told that if I did anything bad God would punish me.  I believed this to be the truth and grew up being afraid.  Did it stop me from doing bad things?  No, however the guilt and shame that I felt afterwards was always there.

Many of us have been taught from birth that we are separate from each other, from God and from everything else in our lives….A belief of separation rather than unity.  This comes both from those inside as well as outside of any major religion.

When you believe in separation you see things outside of yourself and take no responsibility for your part in the creation of it.  You see things that are happening in the world and you turn a blinds eye as if you played no part in the creation. You blame and judge others not realizing that it’s you that you judge and blame…. They are only mirroring what you project.

When you understand unity you see everything that exists is a part of you.  Unity is Unconditional Love.

We underestimate our power to create because ofour belief in separation.  We believe that there is something greater out there that is not part of us but separate from us.  This is the illusion that we live in.  We believe that because our physical form is different we cannot be of the same oneness.

“Our separation from each other is an optical illusion”

Albert Einstein

More and more people are becoming aware of who they really are.  They are dissolving the illusion of separation and awakening to their true self.  It isn’t easy as there are many teachings that contradict the concept of separation.  Many people are raised with the belief that God is outside of them and that they have to please a higher power in order to be saved.

As you begin to awaken to the truth everything becomes much clearer.  There is a sense of peace and calmness that comes over you.  You are on this planet for one reason and one reason only and that is to learn and remember who you truly are.  Understanding Unity will improve the path to enlightenment.

Imagine how empowered, trusting, and loving everyone would be if they knew without doubt they are one with the Source of all life.

For the next week observe your judgments about other people.  Whenever you’re upset about someone’s behavior, write down the quality in him or her that is most upsetting to you.  Write down any opinions you have of the people who are closest to you.  Be sure to include your friends, family and co-workers.  This will help you to begin discovering your hidden aspects.  If you aren’t willing to learn the truth, you’ll be unable to transform your life.

After completing this exercise it is important to own these aspects of yourself.  They are a part of you.  Love and be grateful for all of you not just the parts of you that you like.  It makes up who you are as a person.  Remember that every negative trait has a positive gift for you.

Another way to expose your hidden aspects is to make a list of 3 people you admire and 3 people you dislike.   The people that you admire should possess qualities that inspire you whereas people that you dislike will get you angry or upset.  These don’t have to be people that you know.  They can be anyone that comes to mind.

Why Is It So Important To Forgive?

Forgiving someone when they have said or done something to hurt you isn’t always easy.  In fact, for the most part you would probably rather do just about anything than forgive someone that has caused you pain.  People go through life carrying grudges and never understanding the impact it’s having on them or their lives.

How do I know?…  Because I was one of those people.  There were many times throughout my life that I just couldn’t justify forgiving people for things they said or did to me.  Why should I forgive them?  They should be apologizing to me after all I was the one being hurt.  I thought if I just stayed away from them and tried to forget, it would be okay, but the bitterness that I felt never seemed to go away.  At the time I didn’t understand that by not forgiving, the only person I was hurting was me.

Forgiveness isn’t about releasing others from anything, it is about releasing ourselves. It isn’t something we do for others; it’s something we do for our own well being. When we are in a place of hostility we are held down by feelings of depression, anger, and fear. Forgiveness releases us from these feelings. If we no longer hold bitterness, then these dark side effects will disappear.

If you refuse to forgive someone you remain tied to them.  Unless you release yourself you’ll get closer to being dragged over the cliff with them.  Forgiveness is enlightened self interest.  It allows you to let go of the hurt and pain and leads you down the path of healing and peace.  When you choose to forgive you choose to live in the present.

Forgiveness allows you to move past your life experiences and take away a valuable life lesson.  Think of your life as a history book.  Each experience is the past and it can’t be changed.  It happened and it’s over.  From each experience you can decide, is it something you will do over again or is it something you will do differently.  From every experience you decide you would do differently you can observe a valuable lesson that you can apply in your life today.

How Do I Forgive?

Often times I get asked, “How do I begin to forgive someone that has taken everything away from me….  My dignity, my trust, my humility……?

Forgive yourself first.  One of the hardest things to understand is the role that you play in every situation that you are faced with.  This is most often not something that you are aware of as it is deeply seeded in your subconscious.  By forgiving yourself you will release the feelings of shame and guilty that you may be carrying whether consciously or unconsciously.

When you are forgiving it is always important to focus on the benefits that you get from a negative situation rather than the emotions around the event.  There is always something for you to learn from everything that happens in your life.  We only make changes in our life when we are challenged.  By challenging you, you could make a change in your life that you may not have otherwise made, that has the potential to be very positive.

Think about a negative or uncomfortable experience that you may have had at some point in your life.  Keeping this experience in mind, what could you learn as a positive lesson that you could apply in your life today?  For example you may have learned the importance of speaking your truth, or standing up for yourself or honoring yourself.

Now who are some of the people in your life experience that you should forgive for what they did to you?  Create a list.

When you are contemplating how to forgive someone you may or may not want to express your feelings to the other person.  If this isn’t something that you feel comfortable with or perhaps isn’t possible then you can write them a letter and then tear it up or burn it as you release the judgments and feelings you have about them.

Remember to try and focus on how this may have benefited you in some way.  Most times we are unconscious as to any benefits that this could possibly have brought to our lives especially if the experience has been very traumatic.  You may have to dig deeply in order for them to be revealed.

Think of forgiveness as a gift that you are giving yourself.  Begin to experience the inner peace and love that comes with forgiving.

Love and Light

Vera Stark

How to Become More Successful in Life

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”  Herman Cain

Reading this quote by Herman Cain, I relate to my own life.  As many things as I’ve succeeded at I have also failed at.  When I look back over the years I realize that everything that I was successful at was the things that I enjoyed and loved to do.

They were the things that brought me true joy which is really what we want in our lives.  It isn’t so much what you are doing but the experience and the feeling that it gives you.  It’s the things that bring you fulfillment, fun, satisfaction and pleasure….That feeling or state of consciousness.

Imagine a life where every morning you get out of bed and you’re excited to start your day.  You jump in the shower and then proceed to consciously create your day.  You are constantly in the process of creation whether your thoughts are conscious or not.  Getting into the habit of creating your day the way you want it to go takes some doing.

We have developed this behavior that we repeat on a regular basis which occurs subconsciously and often goes unnoticed.  This behavior is known as a habit.  Your thoughts become habits and in order to break those habits you need to do some work.

By beginning to purposely create your thoughts you will then be able to create your life on purpose.  This is true success.

Playing the game of life with no limits and no restrictions gives you full access to your natural state which includes an experience of infinite power, infinite wisdom which I like to refer to as knowledge in action, abundance, prosperity and joy.

Start by asking yourself:

What would be fun for me to do?

What would be interesting for me to explore?

How would I like to express myself creatively?

Once you have answered these questions and become clear about them you can follow up with these 4 steps to success.

1. Write down your desire. What is it that you choose for your life?  Beginning with “I AM” keeps it in present tense and sends a command to the Universe.  Most times we tend to say, “I want this…” or “I want that…” and so the Universe gives us what we ask for which is the experience of wanting.  Instead as an example you may say, “I am receiving ….” or “I am experiencing….”  You are coming from a place of knowing that the result has already been produced and not from an attempt to produce a result.

2. Focus on it consistently with emotion. Keep what you’re choosing in the forefront your thoughts and feel the sensation of having it.  Speak in favor and support of it as often as you can.

3. Take action in direction of your goal. Do the things that are congruent to your thoughts and feelings.  Stay in alignment which is when your thoughts, words and actions are all aligned with and support your goal.

4. Manifest what you desire by feeling good. The more intense your feelings the more success you will have.

Sometimes you think you want certain things yet when you think about them you don’t necessarily feel good inside.

Your feelings are conflicting with your thought’s which is usually fear or doubt. Check in with yourself and find out exactly what it is that is stopping you from feeling good about what you desire.   Now ask yourself, “If this is really what I am choosing then why am I letting this stop me?”

Article written by Vera Stark

Are You Emotionally Attached?

Do you have expectations of how you think things should be or the need for specific results?

Do you feel the need to constantly be around someone?

Do you eat just for the sake of eating without being hungry?

Are you obsessed with hanging onto things?

Do you lack trust in your relationships?

People get emotionally attached to many things whether its people, food, objects, work, money or numerous other things.   Emotional attachment is like an addiction.

It’s easy to become emotionally attached without even realizing it and when you do it is because you are trying to satisfy an emotional need.  Take a relationship for example, you may want to meet the man/woman of your dreams and get married.  If it didn’t happen you wouldn’t feel bad unless it triggered your fears and insecurities.

The thing is, you may be looking for acceptance through this relationship and when it doesn’t happen it’s the same as losing your ability to be accepted. This is why people go from relationship to relationship. They are looking to fulfill that underlying need.

Why do people become depressed when they gain weight?

Why would someone spend there last $10.00 on a lottery ticket?

We think of emotional attachment as loving something or someone when in fact it has nothing to do with loving anything but rather wanting to fill an emotional need.

So does that mean that loving someone means you are emotionally attached?

No, not at all!

It just means that if that love comes from a place of needing to satisfy an emotional need like, feeling worthy or being accepted for example, then it comes from an attachment.

I came across a quote from Kathleen McDonald that I would like to share with you.

“Overcoming attachment does not mean becoming cold and indifferent.
On the contrary, it means learning to have relaxed control over our mind
through understanding the real causes of happiness and fulfillment,
and this enables us to enjoy life more and suffer less.”

You may become emotionally attached to things that you have been given or bought over the years.  You have a hard time parting with them because of your emotional attachment to them.  Stop and think about why you’re hanging onto it.

Many times we continue to attract things to our lives that cause us to feel fear, anxiety, anger and other emotions.  This is because we have an attachment to the emotion its self.  We become addicted to it thus attracting things and people into our lives that cause us to have these feelings.

What can you do to overcome emotional attachment?

The first thing to do is become aware of the emotional need that you are trying to satisfy.  What is the deeper need for the attachment?

Once you know what it is get really clear as to why you need it and then find a way to satisfy it without being attached to it. For example if you find yourself attached to a picture that triggers good memories for you then maybe it’s because you aren’t having any good moments right now.  Do something that you enjoy or love to do.

It is known that when you smile the brain releases endorphins which make you feel happy.  This is very powerful in helping you to shift your emotions.

A book that I highly recommend is “The Power of Letting Go” by Patricia Carrington PhD

Enjoy!

This Article was written by Vera Stark

Mother Daughter Relationships–5 Most Common Mistakes

#1)   Judge and Criticize Her                      

Your daughter needs to know that you support and love her no matter what she does.  There are times when it will be really hard to understand her reasoning for doing what she does but at the same time if you begin to judge and criticize her it will only lead to more suffering.  You don’t have to like what she does and you certainly don’t have to agree with it but the love and support you give her will help her to realize that you are there for her no matter what and will lead to a more trusting relationship.

#2)   Never Forgive Her

Forgiveness is what it takes in order to move on.  It is a gift that you give to yourself.  You can either forgive or you can hold it inside. Are you willing to waste your energy on it?   If so it will continue to come up in future happenings.  Hanging on to the anger or frustration that you are feeling will fester and cause feelings of resentment towards your daughter.   This will only cause her to become more rebellious.  It is important to let go and forgive.  As Mother Theresa said, “If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.”

#3) Always Expect More of Her

Always wanting more out of her and never being satisfied with her accomplishments will give your daughter feeling that nothing is ever good enough and nothing ever will be.  No matter how hard she tries there is never an incentive for her to get better if she never gets credit where credit is due.  Putting more emphasis on the positive things she does and less emphasis on the negative things she does will empower her to be the best that she can be.  All that matters is that she is doing the best she can and learning from her mistakes.  The only thing any of us can do is the best we can with the resources we have.

#4) Failure to Listen to Her

A child’s need to be heard is just as important as a parents need to be heard.  There is that old saying, “Children should be seen and not heard.”  Unless you are willing to listen to your daughter she will begin to feel less and less important.  Most mothers are in too much of a hurry to really take the time to listen to what there daughters have to say.  If you won’t listen then she will find someone that will.  Taking the time to listen will help you to better understand your daughter and what is going on in her life.  You really have no idea what is going on with her unless you are willing to listen.  This is the key to solving a lot of issues before they even begin.

#5) Constantly Nagging Her

Don’t be late, don’t slam the door, don’t forget your homework, don’t do that, don’t forget that, don’t do this, don’t do that. Constant nagging will only cause her to not want to be around you.  We all know how it feels to be nagged at.  Your daughter will become more and more distant from you.  For one thing these are all negative statements.  When you constantly are saying don’t do something it’s like telling them to do it.  The subconscious mind doesn’t register the word don’t so it is like telling her to do exactly what your not wanting her to do.  Try saying something like “be home early, shut the door quietly or remember your homework.  Telling her what you want her to do and as opposed to what you don’t want her to do is a very different message and will not come across as if you’re nagging her.

This article was written by Vera Stark

How Negative Emotions Affect Your Health

Have you ever considered the affect that emotions have on your physical body?

What fools indeed we morals are
To lavish care upon a Car,
With ne’er a bit of time to see
About our own machinery!
~John Kendrick Bangs

We often take our bodies for granted and neglect to maintain them in the way that they need.

Your body is a machine not much different than that of your vehicle which has parts that need to be kept in functioning order.  Imagine never changing the oil in your car; how long do you think it would continue to run?

And yet when it comes to your body you take it for granted and hope that it will keep going forever without having to do anything.  Even the energizer bunny runs out of fuel after a while.

We currently live in a time of fear based energies which all negative emotions fall under.  Whether its, anxiety, anger, resistance, guilt, shame, lack; they all result from fear.

Research has proven that positive emotions are critical for upkeep of physical health for people worldwide, and above all, those that are deeply impoverished.

In most cases we repress our emotions or deny that we even have them or we suppress them because somewhere in our lives we were told that they were bad.  Look at how boys from a very young age are taught that only sissy’s cry.  As a result they grow up not allowing their emotions to be expressed which is very damaging to their health.

When you repress or suppress your emotions it causes a block in your energy system which if not cleared out will eventually manifest in physical form in or on your body.  Disease as we know it refers to dis-ease in the body.

Every emotion that is held in the body affects the organs by slowing down the circulation which allows for toxins to accumulate.  For example, anger can eventually cause problems in the liver, sadness can create problems in the lungs which could result in respiratory problems, fear can cause blockages in the kidneys and intestines, worry to the spleen and lack of joy to the heart.

This is why your body may start to deteriorate or certain organs may begin to slow down and are no longer as effective.    It takes a lot of energy to repress your emotions and thus you begin to feel like your energy is depleting and you become very tired and less motivated.

So you can see that there is a direct link between our emotions and our health.  It isn’t that negative emotions are bad in any sense of the word in fact they are an expression of who you are.  What is harmful is when you deny either consciously or subconsciously that the emotion even exists or when you decide not to express it or for that matter you just plain ignore it.

All emotions come as a gift including the negative ones.  It is how we handle them that can create the problems.

So what are the solutions?

I’m going share a couple of the things that I teach people that work really well and that you can do right away to begin clearing any negative emotions that may arise.

1. First and foremost make the decision that whatever emotions arise for you, you will let them be there.

2. Secondly, ask the emotion to intensify itself. This may sound off the wall, however it does work.  We know that whatever we resist persists so if we are not allowing the emotion then we are resisting it.  By asking it to intensify we are accepting it for what it is and this alone will sometimes be all you need for it to release.

3. Thirdly, if you haven’t already let go of it then ask yourself why you are hanging onto it. If it is still there then it is serving you in some way.  This could mean that by holding onto it you don’t have to be responsible, you get to be right about something, or you get to blame or judge someone or something.  There is always a reason why you hang onto your negative emotions and there is also always a cost.

4. And fourthly, acknowledge yourself for doing the work. It is important to give yourself credit where credit is due.  You only have one body so treat it with tender loving care.

This article was written by Vera Stark

How to Simplify Your Life

Do you ever find that things are so chaotic and complex that you barely have time to breath let alone take time to really enjoy your life?

Well, it doesn’t have to be that way.

I know because this is how I use to live my life.  I felt like I was fighting a losing battle becoming overwhelmed and exhausted.

What I came to realize is that it really had nothing to do with the things I constantly felt like I had to do but who I was being in the process.

As we push to get out of the rat race we often become trapped and stuck which prevents us from moving forward. We are resistant to things going on around us and therefore create a tug of war inside of us.  By taking the path of least resistance we are allowing things to flow to us naturally.

Imagine trying to go against the law of gravity for instance.  Let me give you an example, if you wanted to lift a heavy object would you like to work with or against the law of gravity.  It’s really that simply.

We tend to make things so much more complicated than they really are due to our conditioning and the non truths that we hold onto.  By becoming more conscious and aware of the things in life that cost nothing and take little of your time you will experience your life becoming much simpler.

Living life in the fast lane makes it easy to lose track of who you are and what is really important to you…. What your real life purpose is.

We are all on a different path which is unique to each and every one of us and so we all have our own perception of what a simpler life is to us.

I’d like to share with you some of the things that have helped me to simplify my own life.

Focus on Your Intention

Say yes to the things that are moving you towards what you are choosing for your life and no to the things that aren’t.  Whenever you are faced with a yes or no situation or decision ask yourself, “Is this in alignment with my intentions and what I choose to achieve?”

“Choose your intention carefully and then practice holding your consciousness to it, so it becomes the guiding light in your life.”    John Roger

Remove Clutter

I’m speaking of clutter in your home, in your office and in your mind.  Sometimes it can be just as hard to part with one as it is the other.  Why hang onto things that no longer serve you?  There is only one reason and that is because we become attached to it.  We are almost afraid to let it go in case we might need it or be able to use it sometime.  This is exactly what happens with your mind clutter which comes as a result of an unbalanced life.  Begin by donating or selling anything at home or at the office that you have no use for.  What is no longer of use to you will be exactly what someone else may be looking for.  It will make you feel good and simplify your life a whole lot more.   Cleaning up the physical clutter will begin to clear the mind clutter as well.  You can also start your day with 10 minutes of silence which will literally transform the day that you have.  Meditation, going for walks, spending time in nature, deep breathing while listening to your breath, reading an inspirational passage and journaling are things that calm the mind.

“When you have cleared all of your clutter, you can be of greater service to those around you.” Michael B. Kitson

Find the Time to Go Within

Learn to do nothing and tune into your intuition.  You have all the answers you need so just ask and listen.  This can be the most powerful way of all to simplify your life.  We are always searching for the answer to things.  We spend hours looking and yet if we just took the time we would realize that we don’t have to look any further than within our own selves.  Take time to listen and the answers will come.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”
-Albert Einstein

Let Go of Attachment

It is very easy to become attached to different things in our lives, some of which are emotions, expectations and the need for specific results.  It becomes much simpler when we can detach ourselves from the outcome and let things happen.  By expecting things to turn out a certain way we are limiting what’s possible.

“Think about any attachments that are depleting your emotional reserves. Consider letting them go.”
~Oprah Winfrey

Refrain From Living in The Past

Bringing our past into the present is what makes our lives so complicated.  Whether you are aware of it or not, it is occurring all the time.  Being consciously aware of when that is happening and willing to be at peace with it will bring more simplicity into your life.  The past was once the present and no longer exists.  The present is where all opportunities and miracles arise for us to see.

What you need to know about the past is that no matter what has happened, it has all worked together to bring you to this very moment.  And this is the moment you can choose to make everything new.  Right now.”  ~Author Unknown

Let Go of Worry

Our greatest worries are our deepest fears.  There is nothing simple about living our lives from “What if this happens, what if it doesn’t work, what if I made the wrong decision?” It creates anxiety and disbelief which only generates problems.  If you find it necessary to ask your self the “What If?” questions then use it in the positive tense.  So for example, “What if this really works, what if I get that promotion, what if this is the best decision of my life, what if miracles really do happen?”  This will get you more excited keeping you open to all the possibilities that could occur.

“I keep the telephone of my mind open to peace, harmony, health, love and abundance.  Then, whenever doubt, anxiety or fear try to call me, they keep getting a busy signal – and soon they’ll forget my number.”  ~Edith Armstrong

Appreciate Each and Every Moment

Life seems to be so much simpler when we can just experience every moment of our journey.    It is never the destination but the process of getting there that brings us true joy.  You’ll notice that once you reach your goals your joy begins to fade away and so you proceed to set yet another goal.  Nurture each moment of your journey and have fun with it.

“When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way” – Wayne Dyer

This article was written by Vera Stark

Are Good and Bad a Reality?

Beginning a New Year is always very exciting for most people.  You look forward to new adventures, new successes, and the new experiences that you will encounter.  What you don’t look forward to are the so called problems and obstacles that may come with it.

Have you ever gone through a whole year or a whole day for that matter without one obstacle that you needed to climb over or one problem that you needed to fix?

Welcome to your life!

There’s a saying that I’m sure you recollect hearing a few times which goes like this, “You have to take the good with the bad.”

So what is good and what is bad, and who said so?

It is obvious that we were told somewhere in our lifetime that certain things were good and certain things were bad.   So what if I told you there was no good or bad and that everything just is the way it is?

That seems like it would be rather mind boggling yet in fact, there is no separation between them.  You can’t separate good and bad, right or wrong, or light and dark any more than you can separate you and God.  Everything is one in the Universe.

It is the distinction between these things that cause you to either accept them or not.  By not accepting what is, you are creating resistance to it and what you resist persists.”

As creatures of habit, one of the many habits that we have is labeling. You label things to indicate your approval or disapproval of something or someone…. You are therefore in judgment .

Let’s say for example you went out for a nice dinner and at the end of it all you say, “That was really bad.”  To you, that may be the case, whereas someone else who ate the same dinner may say, “That was really good.”  There’s been no useful information relayed yet if I was to say instead, “The carrots weren’t cooked and the steak was over done,” then I have said something meaningful.

So why is it so hard to just accept what is and move on?

It is somewhat easier to accept something when you consider it to be good yet when something you see as bad happens you almost always resist it.  Have you ever noticed that when one thing goes wrong ten more things follow?  That is called the ripple affect.

As humans we love to make up stories and so for everything that occurs for or for every person that comes into our lives we create this story based on our own judgments and opinions and then label it as good or bad… right or wrong. You get so wrapped up in our own story about it which is where your attention lies and rather than accepting what is, you become totally involved in the illusion of it therefore resisting it all.

In the book “Conversations with God,” it states,

“You cannot resist something to which you grant no reality.  The act of resisting a thing is the act of granting it life.  When you resist an energy, you place it there.  The more you resist, the more you make it real—whatever it is you are resisting.  What you open your eyes and look at disappears.  That is, it ceases to hold its illusory form.

If you look at something—truly look at it—you will see right through it, and right through any illusion it holds for you, leaving nothing but ultimate reality in your sight.  In the face of ultimate reality your puny illusion has no power.  It cannot long hold you in its weakening grip.  You see the truth of it, and the truth sets you free.”

We recognize good by contrasting it with our experience of bad…right with wrong…light with dark and so on.  What you see as good isn’t necessarily what others will see as good and the same with bad.  Your experience of good and bad comes from the feelings you get.  If you experience something that creates a positive emotion for you then you relate it to being good yet on the other hand when you have an experience which causes a negative feeling to arise then you consider it as bad.  In reality…there just is.

In our true essence and natural state we are pure unconditional love…that which we came from and to that which we will return.  When you begin to understand this you will no longer have resistance to anything as unconditional love brings with it only acceptance and with acceptance comes peace.

“The problem is that we have allowed our egos, the part of us which believes that we are separate from God and separate from each other, to dominate our lives.”   Wayne Dyer

Article written by Vera Stark